Epi #88. 4 Steps to Become Your Child's Unbreakable Safe SpaceNov 28, 2023
4 Steps to Become Your Child's Unbreakable Safe Space
You've probably had moments where you've wondered, "Am I doing this right?" Maybe you've lost your temper and worried, "Will my child fear me now?"
I get it.
We all aspire to be our child’s hero, their safe harbor in a storm. But sometimes, fear and doubt creep in, making us question if we're veering off course.
Well, I'm here to guide you through this.
Together, we’ll explore how you can become that unbreakable safe space for your child, even when the going gets tough.
It's about transforming your fears into a solid foundation of trust and understanding.
Step 1: Becoming Your Own Safe Space
Let me tell you a story.
Imagine you're at the beach with your child. They're apprehensive about the water, but you, calm and confident, gently guide them in.
They feel safe because you do. This is exactly what happens when we deal with our children's big emotions. If we're calm, they feel secure.
At HIC Parenting, we start by helping parents find their peace amidst chaos.
Here's a simple tip: connect with your breath, remind yourself you're safe, and then transfer that tranquility to your child.
Step 2: Transferring Peace to Your Child
Picture this: your child comes to you, upset. Instead of rushing to distract them, sit with them in their emotion.
Show them you're strong enough to handle their feelings, and they'll learn to trust you as their emotional anchor.
This doesn’t mean you have to fix everything. It's about being present, listening, and understanding.
Step 3: Allowing Authentic Expression
It’s crucial to let your child express themselves, even when it’s tough for you to hear.
Say your child is upset because they didn't get what they wanted.
Instead of saying, “Don’t be upset,” try, “I hear you’re disappointed.
It’s okay to feel that way.” This openness ensures they'll always feel comfortable coming to you.
Step 4: Understanding Needs Beneath Behaviors
Every outburst, every cry, is your child trying to tell you something. Let’s say your child throws a tantrum because their ice cream fell.
They're not just being difficult; they're disappointed and don’t know how to express it.
Understanding this helps you respond with empathy, guiding them to better express their emotions.
Your Path to Being Their Safe Space
You see, becoming your child's unbreakable safe space isn’t about being perfect. It’s about committing to understand them, to grow with them, and to be their calm in the chaos.
This is what we call Parenting With Understanding.
It's a beautiful, rewarding journey, and I'm here to help you every step of the way.
For more insights, check out our latest episode of The Parenting With Understanding Podcast. We delve deep into these topics, giving you practical, real-world examples.
If you want personalized support, book a free Parenting Assessment Call with me or one of our HIC Parenting advisors. On this call, we'll help you:
- Find the root of your parenting challenges.
- Create a tailored plan for a peaceful home.
- Decide if our coaching is the right fit for you.
[Book your free Parenting Assessment Call] today, and let's embark on this transformative journey together.
Remember, you're not alone on this path. We're here to guide you toward becoming the safe space your child will always cherish.