Need Help? [email protected]

Epi. #68: What DISCIPLINE looks like in gentle parenting

cyclebreakers gentle parenting marcela collier parenting-with-understanding podcast rachael rogers shownotes spotlight Jul 11, 2023
HIC Parenting Education
Epi. #68: What DISCIPLINE looks like in gentle parenting

What DISCIPLINE looks like in gentle parenting

You're not alone if you've ever needed clarification about discipline within the gentle parenting framework. 

Misconceptions abound, and it's crucial to understand what gentle parenting truly involves. This article will dispel some common myths about gentle parenting and shed light on what discipline looks like in this approach.


  • Common Myths About Gentle Parenting


Let's start by debunking a few prevalent misconceptions:

  1. Children Make the Rules: Gentle parenting is not about giving children complete control. Instead, it's about creating a cooperative environment where parents and children work together to establish boundaries.
  2. There are No Consequences: Children face the consequences in gentle parenting, but they are natural and logical consequences designed to teach rather than punish.
  3. Always a Gentle Tone: While gentle parenting encourages respectful and calm communication, it doesn't mean parents are never firm or assertive. The goal is effective communication, not a particular tone.
  4. Lack of Real-World Preparation: Gentle parenting equips children with vital skills like empathy, patience, and problem-solving, preparing them effectively for real-world challenges.
  5. Raising Entitled Kids: Gentle parenting doesn't mean indulging a child's every whim. It's about respecting their feelings while also teaching them to respect the feelings and boundaries of others.


  • Understanding Discipline in Gentle Parenting


Now that we've addressed the myths, let's talk about what discipline looks like in gentle parenting:

  1. Discipline as Teaching: The term "discipline" originates from the Latin word "discern," meaning "to learn." Therefore, discipline in gentle parenting involves teaching appropriate behaviors rather than merely punishing undesired ones.
  2. Discipline ≠ Punishment: Gentle parenting emphasizes the difference between discipline and punishment. It seeks ways to guide children without causing emotional distress or making them feel bad.
  3. Behavior Reflects Needs: All behavior communicates a need. Gentle parenting focuses on helping children understand and express their underlying needs in more socially appropriate ways.
  4. Model Good Behavior: Children learn through observation. We must consistently model these behaviors if we want our children to display kindness, patience, and respect.

In conclusion, discipline within gentle parenting is about guiding and teaching rather than controlling and punishing. 

It's about raising children who are kind, respectful, resilient, and capable of facing real-world challenges.

Want to learn more about discipline in gentle parenting? Join us on the latest episode of "The Parenting With Understanding" podcast. We dive deeper into this topic and share practical examples and tips for implementing these principles in everyday parenting scenarios.

You're not alone on this journey. We're forging a path toward understanding, respect, and mutual growth. Join us because every step is towards creating a better world, one peaceful family at a time.

Enjoy the show?