Epi #165. How to Reparent Yourself to Become a Secure Parent

Do you wonder if you’re really capable of raising secure, happy kids—especially with all the childhood wounds you carry?

You don’t want to repeat how you were raised.

You’ve promised yourself that you’ll stay calm.

But then… your child pushes back, doesn’t listen, and before you know it—you snap. 😔

And once again, you’re sitting there with guilt thinking, “Why can’t I break this cycle?”

If you’ve been there, friend, I want you to know this—you’re not broken.

And this blog will show you the way out. 💛

1. The Real Reason We Keep Reacting (Even When We Know Better)

Let me start with something surprising I heard from Kim Kardashian.

She said, “My daughter North came into this world to teach me about myself. I discovered my patience through her.”

That’s reparenting.

And that’s the secret to breaking free from reactivity.

It’s not about blaming your parents or drowning in guilt.

It’s about learning to give yourself today what you didn’t get back then.

That’s how you become the calm, secure parent your child needs.

2. What Is Reparenting… And What It’s Not

Reparenting isn’t about blaming your parents.

It’s not about staying stuck in old pain either.

Reparenting is about giving yourself what you needed as a child.

Space to rest. 🌿
Permission to play. 🎈
Time to cry. 😢
Room to be silly and free. 💃

When you do this, you heal.

And when you heal, your children benefit too.

3. Were You Allowed to Have Space Growing Up?

Ask yourself this:

Were you allowed to have space as a child?

Space to rest.
Space to just be.
Or was everything about finishing chores and checking off the to-do list?

If you grew up in constant rush and pressure, no wonder patience feels so hard today.

That rush became your normal.

And now, when your child takes their time or slows down… you feel like you’re going to explode.

Friend, it’s not your fault.

You’re carrying a belief that says, “Rest is lazy. Play is a waste of time. I have to always be productive.”

That’s the belief we need to heal.

4. Your Child Is Your Mirror

Want to know why your child pushes your buttons more than anyone else?

Because they reflect the parts of you that still need healing.

They show you the places where you didn’t get your needs met.

My autistic son triggers me more than my neurotypical child—because he struggles with the exact same things I do.

And that reflection is hard to face.

But it’s also a beautiful invitation to grow. 💛

5. Are You Parenting Through the Wound of Rejection?

How do you feel when your child rejects you?

When they don’t want your hug?
When they don’t like the food you made?
When they push away the gift you were excited to give them?

Does it feel unbearable?

If so, you might be parenting through the wound of rejection.

And every little “no” from your child feels like a giant, “You’re not good enough.”

But friend, that’s not the truth.

That’s your unhealed pain talking.

6. The Fastest Way to Start Reparenting Today

You don’t need a big plan to start.

Just ask yourself this one question:

👉 What is one thing I haven’t allowed myself to do?

Is it rest?

Is it play?

Is it crying or laughing loudly?

Give yourself permission to do that one thing today.

That’s reparenting.

And every time you do it, you become a little more secure.

And your child? They’ll feel it too.

7. How Reparenting Helped My Client Nelly

Nelly used to believe she wasn’t a good mom.

She felt stuck in guilt and reactivity.

But through reparenting, she realized something powerful…

She was a good mom.

She was just parenting through unhealed pain.

Once she started giving herself the space, rest, and kindness she deserved…

Everything changed.

Her reactivity cooled down.

She felt calmer and more present with her kids.

And her kids responded to that change.

This is the exact process we teach our coaching clients.

And friend, it can work for you too.

8. Try This Simple Practice When You Feel Triggered

Next time your child says “no” or pushes back, pause and ask:

👉 Is this really about them, or is this touching something inside me?

That small pause can change everything.

You’ll stop reacting.

And you’ll start responding.

That’s how you become the secure parent your child needs.

9. Ready to Go Deeper? Join My Free Class

If you’re ready to break free from old patterns and start parenting with peace…

Join my free class:

In this class, you’ll learn:

✅ How to overcome angry reactions and respond calmly during your children’s chaos.
✅ How to communicate so your child listens—even when you say “no.”
✅ How to raise emotionally healthy children who can face the real world with confidence and self-accountability.

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Your journey to peace starts with one small step.

Take it today. 💛